"In order to have compassion for the world, you have to have compassion for yourself."

Pema Chodron

"Compassion is the energy that heals suffering."

Thich Nhat Hanh

"Self-compassion is the recognition that no matter what is happening in our lives, we are lovable."

Tim Desmond


Self-compassion is the process of becoming friends with yourself and treating yourself with kindness instead of hatred and loathing. Rather than trying to get rid of parts of ourselves that we dislike, or beating ourselves up over things we think we did wrong, we can extend the same thoughtfulness we give to our friends to ourselves. Most of the time we think that everything would be better if we could change. Change our job, our partner, our friends and family, our home, and most especially ourselves. Unfortunately, this desire often ends up making us more upset. The message underneath the desire to change is that we are not okay the way we are, that something is wrong with us and we need to fix it.
Imagine someone has that attitude toward you. In no way would I want to be around someone who felt like everything was my fault and that everything would get better if I could just fix myself! Yet, we are doing this to ourselves all of the time!